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04Nov/13

The Wisdom of the Dalai Lama?

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There is a quote circulating about the Internet (through the power of social media) where the Dalai Lama is asked what surprised him the most about humanity. His answer was:

“Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

Let’s forget the fact that the Dalai Lama never said it, isn’t this how we see so many people live their lives? What about you? Can you find yourself in that quote? Are you living life to the fullest, or are you working yourself to the core just to get by while sacrificing valuable relationships in the process?

Many  people believe “that’s as good as it gets”, you know, they buy into the “rat race” and expect that after 20-30 years of doing the same thing over and over, they get to a place called retirement. Recent economic times have shown us that many who sacrificed all that time ended up a retirement age without retirement money.

I’d like to propose something different.

If I told you that it was possible to live life differently, would you believe me? What if I told you that it was possible to get out of our own way and BREAKTHROUGH beyond what holds you back and start living in purpose and walking in your destiny? What if I told you it was possible to ATTRACT what you want instead of striving for it? What if it is REALLY IS POSSIBLE to have more love, peace, money, and joy in your life simply because you learned how to ATTRACT it?

I am here to tell you IT IS POSSIBLE!

I found my purpose several years ago, and that was helping others achieve breakthrough to the successes they were striving for, but could not attain prior. I have been blessed to see countless people have breakthroughs in their personal and professional lives over the past several years.

So what is breakthrough? In essence, it is getting beyond “The Prison of Your Mind”. You know, the one playing the negative messages to you? Neuroscience teaches that the strongest psychological human drive is to behave consistently with the belief you have about yourself. The process of breakthrough starts with exposing those limiting beliefs you have about yourself and correcting them!

So do you want to have your own breakthrough and start to live life on your own terms? If so, I’d like t invite you to listen to the replay of a call I did where I discussed my proven system – the Quantum Emergence® System – and how it has helped people to break free from the lies (of limiting beliefs and negative thinking) and start living your truth.  Once you’ve listened to it, feel free to share any feedback below. Here is the link to access the call replay: http://quantumemergence.com/call/

I look forward to having participate and most of all to hearing your BREAKTHROUGH testimonial!

Live in purpose!

03Apr/13

Flip Falsehood on Its Head

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Over the past few weeks, we’ve been talking a lot about identity, truth, and falsehood.  A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post about the benefit of limiting beliefs, and how limiting beliefs allow us to discover profound truths lurking behind lies that are particularly troubling to us.

Today, I’d like to introduce you to a powerful technique that can help you actually flip falsehood on its head.

Start with the areas of your life that are causing you the most pain. Look for emotionally charged beliefs about a situation. Once you have identified a situation like this in your life, ask yourself the following questions.

1. Identify a belief that is causing you a lot of pain.

 2. Ask yourself: how does it make me feel? What thoughts, reactions and feelings do I have when I think about having that belief?

3. Ask yourself: is that really true?

4. Ridicule it. Expose how it is absolutely false, warped and skewed. Find evidence that proves it’s not true.

5. Ask yourself: who would I be without that belief? How would I think, feel and act toward myself if I didn’t believe that?

6. Ask yourself: what is the exact opposite of that belief? What would my life be like with this new, opposite belief? List all the possibilities.

7. Find evidence that it’s true. List as many examples as possible with real-life people and situations that validate this belief. Be specific. (Helpful hint: what areas and experiences in your life make you feel really, really good?)

8. Act on it. List one specific action step you can take in the next 72 hours that would validate this empowering belief.

Remember: 95% of ALL your daily thoughts, actions and behaviors are governed by your beliefs!  There is almost NOTHING more important than choosing beliefs about yourself that are in-line with that which is most empowering and positive.

What techniques have you used to flip falsehood on its head?

For a comprehensive look at how you can create real transformation in your life, download our FREE ebook, “Reveal Your Truth: How to Unlock Your Purpose in the 10 Major Areas of Life.” 

20Mar/13

The Benefit of Limiting Beliefs

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Talk to most “self-improvement” gurus, and they’ll tell you that Limiting Beliefs are the Enemy.

They’re not entirely wrong.  Limiting beliefs do prevent you from living the kind of robust, engaged, fulfilled life you were made for.

But what they’re not telling you is that there are actually profound benefits to your Limiting Beliefs.

Yep, you read that right.

Benefits.

You see, we live in a world of grace and power.  Thus, even things that appear to us to be negative or painful can actually be extremely useful and productive.

In the case of limiting beliefs, the primary benefit is contained in this simple truth: your Limiting Beliefs, as painful as they might be, point you to something that is profoundly true about you…something that can help you thrive and succeed.

Here’s an example.

Let’s say that someone insists to you that the sky is red.  How much angst or frustration would that cause you?  Probably none.  You might think them strange…you might wonder what’s wrong with them…you might pat them on the head and try to humor them.

But because you understand that their claim is absolutely, completely false, it doesn’t reel you in.

It doesn’t “hook” you or trigger you emotionally.

Limiting Beliefs are limiting because they contain elements of truth.  They are the dark side, or the shadow side, of something deeply wonderful and divine about you.

Thus, when you flip them over, you make important self-discoveries that you never would have had the opportunity to make otherwise.  The pain of the limiting beliefs has spurred you into reflection, into resolution, into truth.

And as the scripture says, the truth will set you free.

When you think of it that way, it’s a pretty awesome benefit after all, isn’t it?

For a comprehensive look at how you can create real transformation in your life, download our FREE ebook, “Reveal Your Truth: How to Unlock Your Purpose in the 10 Major Areas of Life.” 

01Feb/13

Why “Traditional” Approaches to Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Don’t Work

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We’re nearing the end of our series on limiting beliefs.  I hope by now you have a solid sense for what they are, why it’s so important to overcome them, and how you can begin the process.

If you’ve been around the personal development world for any extended period of time, you’ve probably heard any number of “remedies” for limiting beliefs.  Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to…

  • Stop identifying with the belief
  • Recite positive affirmations
  • Test your assumptions
  • Meditate
  • Create new habits
  • Reframe the belief
  • Go to therapy
  • Undergo hypnosis
  • Set goals
  • Create a vision board
  • Stop focusing on the past
  • Use brain entrainment technology and subliminal audios/videos

…or any number of techniques “guaranteed” to help you rid yourself of pesky limited beliefs once and for all.

There’s just one problem.

These techniques don’t work.

Don’t get me wrong.  Some of them are truly powerful thought- and behavior-modification strategies that, when implemented under the right circumstances, can be effective.

But the fundamental issue is that these techniques still operate from the faulty assumption that limiting beliefs are the root of your problem, as opposed to just a symptom

Remember: the root of your problem is an identity problem.  You haven’t discovered who you are at your very core — what I call your Virtue.  So you can work to change your limiting beliefs, but if you’re no closer to understanding this vital component of yourself, you’ll continue to struggle.

Until you go beyond your limiting beliefs and address the heart of the matter — coming to understand your Virtue, or your true identity — all the techniques in the world will merely scratch the surface.  It’s like painting over a crack in the wall, or putting a rug over a hole in the floor.   It might look better for a while, but ultimately, you need to dive in and repair what’s wrong.

Fortunately, at Quantum Emergence, we have an entire process devoted to helping you shine a light on your limiting beliefs and discover the truth behind them.  If this is a journey you’re interested in taking, I’d like to invite you to take advantage of a FREE Beyond Breakthrough Coaching Session with me or one of my certified coaches.  In this 30-minute session, you’ll begin the journey into understanding your true identity, so that you can step into the life you were made for.

29Jan/13

How to Ascertain the Truth Behind Limiting Beliefs

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On our blog for the past couple of weeks, we’ve been talking about limiting beliefs: what they are, and why, surprisingly, they’re not the core source of your problems, unlike what so many personal development gurus might have you believe.

Instead, limiting beliefs are a symptom of a deeper problem.

In a previous post, I put it this way:

All limiting beliefs are the dark side of a profound truth about yourself; something that your subconscious is trying to protect.

The only thing that can truly heal, complete, and correct a limiting belief is for you to become aware of the light side of your truth — what I call your Virtue, or your true identity.  Then you can embrace what is real, and your limiting belief will melt away.

You see, there is a reason that the limiting beliefs that afflict you are present — and why the same limiting belief might not be a problem for another person.  Limiting beliefs are not chosen at random, formed by accident, or picked out of a hat by chance.

They are always created from a source of light.

Let me say that again: they are always created from a source of light.

Limiting beliefs, then, represent the “dark side” or negative aspects of your truth.  Otherwise, the limiting belief would have no “teeth,” no ability to be compelling or make you feel badly.

In other words: there is always truth lurking on the other side of a lie.

But how do you do it?  How do you discover the truth behind your limiting beliefs?

Quite frankly, this is an important process that is best undertaken with the help of a mentor or coach who understands this process well.  Otherwise, you might misidentify the lie, and end up exchanging one limiting belief for another!

At Quantum Emergence, we have an entire process devoted to helping you shine a light on your limiting beliefs and discover the truth behind them.  If this is a journey you’re interested in taking, I’d like to invite you to take advantage of a FREE Beyond Breakthrough Coaching Session with me or one of my certified coaches.  In this 30-minute session, you’ll begin the journey into understanding your true identity, so that you can step into the life you were made for.

18Jan/13

Why Limiting Beliefs Are NOT the Problem

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In my last post “What Is a Limiting Belief?” we spent some time talking about limiting beliefs: what they are and how they affect our ability to live the life we want.

But did you know that limiting beliefs are NOT the real problem?

I know that sounds strange.  After all, most people — especially the so-called “gurus” in the personal development industry — tend to think that if they could just eliminate limiting beliefs, they’d never struggle again.  So they get to work, applying this technique or that strategy to minimize the effects of limiting beliefs.

But limiting beliefs are NOT the source of the core problem.

They are merely a symptom.

The core problem is that you have a distorted self-perception that is feeding all the limiting beliefs you’re experiencing.

Let me give you an example.

Say you’re struggling to stay physically fit.  You’re overweight, you’re tired.  And though you know you want to be healthier, you can’t quite bring yourself to get off the couch and throw away the potato chips.

Traditional personal development teachers might tell you that your root problem is that you subconsciously believe you are fat.

This isn’t wrong, but it only scratches the surface.

You can spend all the time in the world trying to convince yourself that you ARE someone who can be thin, fit, and active — trying to change, or replace your limiting belief — but if you don’t dig deeper, it probably won’t work very well.

Instead, you must recognize this fact: all limiting beliefs are the dark side  of a profound truth about yourself; something that your subconscious is trying to protect.

The only thing that can truly heal, complete, and correct a limiting belief is for you to become aware of the light side of your truth — what I call your Virtue, or your true identity.  Then you can embrace what is real, and your limiting belief will melt away.

In our example of someone who struggles with their weight,  realize that the belief system doesn’t even know that you’re overweight, or what weight is for that matter, but it DOES no how important it is for you to feel connected and have a sense of belonging with those who are important to you or who you love. So to add a few clichés here such as; “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” and “birds of a feather flock together”, there’s a good chance that the people you are closest to also have weight problems. Obviously, having a deep sense of connection and belonging with those you love is a good thing and thus the light side of who you are. However, conditioning says that you must maintain that connection at all costs and one way to be liked by them is to look like them. Thus, subconsciously speaking, being overweight is your ticket to fill the need of connection and belonging. Consequently, the subconscious fulfills this prime objective by maintaining a limiting belief that compels your dominant thoughts, feelings and behaviors to sabotage your efforts to lose weight whenever it might arise.

Do you see?

The real problem isn’t the limiting belief; it’s what’s behind the limiting belief.  The limiting belief is just a symptom of a more serious malady.

For help discovering your Virtue and ridding yourself of limiting beliefs, request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Coaching Session with one of Quantum Emergence’s qualified coaches today. 

15Jan/13

3 Elements of Limiting Beliefs

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How can you tell a limiting belief from a supporting belief?  There are three elements that will help you determine that what you’re experiencing is a limiting belief that will hinder your transformation process.

1) Limiting beliefs carry negative emotions.  Limiting beliefs always come with negative emotions attached.

2) Limiting beliefs maintain a low self-image.  If the belief you’re investing in makes you feel badly about yourself, it is limiting.

3) Limiting beliefs always play on one of the three fears of man.  There are three universal fears that afflict humankind: the fear that we are not valuable, worthy, or significant; the fear that we are not loved nor lovable; the fear that we are alone and disconnected.  If the belief you’ve identified is associated with one of these three fears, you can be certain it is a limiting belief.

Understanding and identifying limiting beliefs is an important step on the road to transformation.

Many people discover that working with an experienced mentor or coach can speed the self-discovery and transformation process.  Request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Session with one of our qualified coaches today. 

11Jan/13

What Is a Limiting Belief?

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If you’ve been around personal development circles for any length of time, you’ve probably heard the term “limiting belief.”

But what is a limiting belief?

Put succinctly, a limiting belief is a way you perceive yourself or the world around you that builds unnecessary obstacles to creating the life you want.

Limiting beliefs are often held so deeply in the subconscious mind that unless we take the time to examine them and bring them to the surface, we may not even be aware of them at all.  And yet, they are part of the “programming” that governs almost everything we do: the way we think about ourselves, how we interact with others, what we believe is possible for our lives.

All beliefs serve only one purpose: to establish and maintain one’s self-perception and identity (what we at Quantum Emergence call your “Virtue”).  Thus, a skewed, distorted, or otherwise inaccurate self-perception exists because of a limiting belief.

Here are some important things to understand about limiting beliefs…

1. Limiting beliefs tend to stem from traumatic and painful past experiences.  Because all beliefs establish and maintain your self-perception, these are experiences that altered or threatened your core sense of identity (or Virtue) in very negative ways.

2. Limiting beliefs don’t know they’re limiting.  Your subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate from “positive” or “negative” beliefs.  It simply knows how you perceive yourself, and will protect your Virtue at all costs — even if it’s damaging.

3. Limiting beliefs are grounded in important truth.  You don’t pick a limiting belief out of a hat.  A limiting belief is formed when something that is significant and important to you is being threatened — in other words, your Virtue.   The reason it as “teeth,” as it were, is because it’s biting into something very real and very true.

4. Limiting beliefs have four components…

  • Memory.  The past traumatic event that formed the limiting belief.
  • Energy.  The “fight or flight” response that was linked to the memory gets trapped within the body (cellular memory).
  • Meaning.  The interpretation of how the event defined you — usually as a bad or unworthy person.
  • Mechanism.  The unconscious ways of thinking and behaving throughout life in an attempt to hide, override or diminish the pain of the limiting belief.

Did you know that it’s possible to be free from the negative effects of limiting beliefs?  In my next few blog posts, I’ll reveal how.

In the meantime, sound off in the comments below: what do limiting beliefs mean to you?

For a comprehensive look at how you can create real transformation in your life, download our FREE ebook, “Reveal Your Truth: How to Unlock Your Purpose in the 10 Major Areas of Life.”

08Jan/13

Limiting vs. Supporting Beliefs

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In the journey toward personal growth, you’ll probably encounter the terms “limiting beliefs” and “supporting beliefs” along the way.

But what is a limiting vs. a supporting belief?

In simplest terms, a limiting belief is something you hold to be true about yourself or the world around you that is creating obstacles in your path.  For example, if you are struggling financially, it could be because you have a limiting belief that you are not the type of person who would ever be wealthy.  Thus, you make decisions and live from that reality.

A supporting belief, on the other hand, is something you hold to be true about yourself or the world around you that is in alignment with the life you want to create.  Using the financial objective again, if one of your life objectives is wealth and prosperity, a supporting belief would be that you are the type of person who can create wealth and opportunity easily.

All beliefs exist to establish and maintain our self-perception.  Beliefs that represent the truth about who we really are can be referred to as “supporting beliefs,” while beliefs that represent a skewed, distorted, or otherwise inaccurate self-perception is a “limiting belief.”

As you continue your path to personal growth, it’s important to understand that the terms “limiting” and “supporting” are just names to describe whether or not our beliefs are producing positive or negative results — our subconscious mind doesn’t  distinguish between them this way, and will strive to protect whatever you actually, genuinely believe to be your true identity at your deepest level.

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12Nov/12

Beyond Limiting Beliefs – Part 2

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Treat the Cause NOT the Symptom

In my last blog I talked about what limiting beliefs are and the purpose they serve.

This time I’m going to look at the real cause of the problem at its source. (Hint: it’s NOT the limiting belief)

Most people don’t realize that all of life’s obstacles and challenges are self-created.

People waste massive amounts of time trying to solve their surface problems by attempting to change, control and/or avoid the situation or person they believe caused their pain.

You probably know someone who attends endless seminars and courses on personal growth searching for the answer and never finding it.

Have you ever asked yourself why it’s such a hopeless quest?

It’s because these programs don’t get at the root cause of the problem. They try to deal with the symptom. It’s like putting a Band-Aid on an open infection hoping it will go away on its own.

Then there are the people who are convinced everyone else is responsible for their suffering. They complain endlessly about their husband, wife, kids, job etc. never realizing that the only way to transform the situation is through themselves.

Yes, it’s both the good news and the bad news. You are the creator of your present life! Let’s focus on the good news, which is that because you created your life through your deeply held beliefs you can chose to recreate yourself in keeping with your True self, the self God intended for you.

So.. what do you need to do to get started on the journey of true, permanent change?

1) Acknowledge to yourself that whatever your life is now is a reflection of your beliefs.

2) Overcome the illusion that your reality is something that needs to be controlled and changed. It is simply an extension of your most dominant beliefs.

3) In order to fully experience all the joy and love life has to offer you must get at the root cause of your pain so you can transform it.

4) Transforming your beliefs means bringing them to conscious awareness so that you can work with the meaning and interpretations you have established around them.

5) Your limiting beliefs hide the reality of your true self.

6) Through state of the art techniques and neurological conditioning you can receive profound clarity about your true self and God given identity.

Now that you have a good understanding of the purpose of limiting beliefs and how to get at their root cause you are well on your way to transformation.

My challenge to you is to start questioning why you behave the way you do. The more automatic your response, the more likely it is being driven by a subconscious belief.

Pick a situation that repeatedly causes you pain and begin to become aware of yourself in the situation. How are you feeling, what are you thinking, what is your automatic response? The stronger the emotion the more likely you have hit a personal belief jackpot. Over the next week keep a journal, recording what you observe about yourself. Commit fully to this exercise and you will be taking a profound step towards transformation.

Ready for change? Take the next step by listening to a call I recorded called “UNLOCK YOUR MIND PRISON.” I look forward to your feedback.