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10Apr/13

How Knowing Your True Identity Will Change Your Life

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Over the past 15 years as a coach, I have worked with a lot of people.

I’ve worked with hugely successful people.  I’ve worked with people who are struggling.  I’ve worked with joyful people.  I’ve worked with people who are sad, lonely, and discouraged.

And through it all, if there is one thing I could share with you — one bit of wisdom, one principle, one truth I could impart that would help you live a better, more fulfilled life, it’s this:

Know thyself.

No, I’m not the first person to say that.

In fact, it was originally attributed to the ancient Greek sages…though it was probably wisdom much more ancient than even that.

That’s because knowing yourself — understanding your true identity — is the very first step into transformation.

It is the key of knowledge that opens doors to happiness and prosperity.

When you know yourself, everything changes.

  • You become empowered to make decisions that you know will serve you and the world around you, because you are grounded in truth.
  • You show up in relationships honest and true…which means that you know that people love you for you, and helps you avoid causing pain by betraying or misleading others.
  • You understand your own thoughts and feelings and motivations, which helps you manage them in compassionate, loving ways.
  • You are more productive, because you are clear and focused.
  • You are happier, because you are comfortable in your own skin.
  • You are teachable, because you know and accept who you are — you are no longer hiding or protecting something that is false.

At Quantum Emergence, much of the major work we do is helping people understand the power of identity-based transformation.  The transformation and life satisfaction that comes when you know who you are — who God made you to be — and love from and into that reality.

The results are spectacular.

People who once struggled with loneliness, despair, and poverty  become confident, loved, and bask in the life’s abundance.

I want that for you.  I want that for everyone.  Have the courage to take that first step.  Have the courage to truly know thyself.  You’ll never regret it.

Many people discover that working with an experienced mentor or coach can speed the self-discovery and transformation process.  Request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Session with one of our qualified coaches today. 

03Apr/13

Flip Falsehood on Its Head

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Over the past few weeks, we’ve been talking a lot about identity, truth, and falsehood.  A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post about the benefit of limiting beliefs, and how limiting beliefs allow us to discover profound truths lurking behind lies that are particularly troubling to us.

Today, I’d like to introduce you to a powerful technique that can help you actually flip falsehood on its head.

Start with the areas of your life that are causing you the most pain. Look for emotionally charged beliefs about a situation. Once you have identified a situation like this in your life, ask yourself the following questions.

1. Identify a belief that is causing you a lot of pain.

 2. Ask yourself: how does it make me feel? What thoughts, reactions and feelings do I have when I think about having that belief?

3. Ask yourself: is that really true?

4. Ridicule it. Expose how it is absolutely false, warped and skewed. Find evidence that proves it’s not true.

5. Ask yourself: who would I be without that belief? How would I think, feel and act toward myself if I didn’t believe that?

6. Ask yourself: what is the exact opposite of that belief? What would my life be like with this new, opposite belief? List all the possibilities.

7. Find evidence that it’s true. List as many examples as possible with real-life people and situations that validate this belief. Be specific. (Helpful hint: what areas and experiences in your life make you feel really, really good?)

8. Act on it. List one specific action step you can take in the next 72 hours that would validate this empowering belief.

Remember: 95% of ALL your daily thoughts, actions and behaviors are governed by your beliefs!  There is almost NOTHING more important than choosing beliefs about yourself that are in-line with that which is most empowering and positive.

What techniques have you used to flip falsehood on its head?

For a comprehensive look at how you can create real transformation in your life, download our FREE ebook, “Reveal Your Truth: How to Unlock Your Purpose in the 10 Major Areas of Life.” 

02Apr/13

How to Find Truth in Falsehood

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In order to achieve true personal growth in life, it’s necessary to weed out the truth from the lies.  Like two sides of a coin, falsehood helps you understand truth.  Understanding the falsehood in life helps illuminate the truth that will lead you on a path to greater personal growth.  Here are some ways to find truth in falsehood:

  1. Understand your filter.  The falsehood in your life is a product of the limiting beliefs you have accrued over the course of your life.  Once you understand the filter through which you see life, you can begin to peel away that which isn’t true and experience the personal growth you desire.
  1. Ask Yourself Why.  Take a good, hard look and ask yourself why you believe the things you do?  Why did you pick those meanings, that perspective or those qualities to define yourself with?
  1. Let Go of Fear.  It’s scary examining deeply-held beliefs.  The thought that what we have always accepted about ourselves  might not be true is terrifying.  Giving yourself permission to examine your beliefs allows you to either confirm them or begin a new search to greater enlightenment.

These are a few ways to find truth in falsehood and put you on a course to greater personal growth.

 

Many people discover that working with an experienced mentor or coach can speed the self-discovery and transformation process.  Request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Session with one of our qualified coaches today.

27Mar/13

Why False Identity Is So Damaging

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When you look at the rest of the personal development world, you notice a few patterns emerging.

  • Lots of goal setting techniques
  • Lots of checklists
  • Lots of affirmations
  • Lots of meditations
  • Lots of shoulds and shouldn’ts, and dos and don’ts

I actually believe that all of those techniques can be useful.  But every single one of them misses something important…something deeper…the very heart of the matter.

Here at Quantum Emergence, we do things a little differently.   Our transformation philosophy is identity-based.

But what exactly does that mean?

In a nutshell, this: each of us has a spark of divinity with us.  This spark of divinity is the very core of who we are.  It is the true essence of our natures…who God Himself created us to be.

That spark is our true identity.

When we live in alignment with our identity, we are fulfilled, happy, resilient.

When we live out of alignment with it — or worse, when we try to bury, squash, change, or otherwise do violence to it — we are frustrated, angry, sluggish, unhappy, restless, weary.

Identity is so vital that our entire emotional and psychological systems are designed to protect and preserve our image of who we really are.  Our subconscious minds will cling to our beliefs — even false ones — if they are genuinely held.  You hear a lot about “limiting” and “supporting” beliefs in personal development circles.  But really there are just beliefs.  Our minds have no way of distinguishing between the two.  All it knows is that identity is vital…and must be protected at all costs.

So our subconscious minds will do all they can to protect and preserve those beliefs.

If the identity in which we’ve invested is false — that is, if it is out of alignment with that spark of divinity, that core piece of who God has made us to be — the results can be disastrous.  This can include loneliness, self-destructive behavior patterns, unstable relationships, poverty, and much, much more.

The answer is to come to know who we really are, to reveal ourselves to ourselves.  To embrace our true identity and to leave false ones in the dust where they belong.

How has understanding your true identity helped you create a better life?

Many people discover that working with an experienced mentor or coach can speed the self-discovery and transformation process.  Request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Session with one of our qualified coaches today. 

20Feb/13

What Is Virtue?

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The word “virtue” has interesting connotations in modern society.   We tend to think of it as something that refers to moral goodness — for example, someone who demonstrates behavior that is true and upright.  If you were brought up in a religious household, you might associate it with sexual purity or chastity.   Or perhaps you’ve never thought much about the word at all: it isn’t a term you hear all that frequently anymore.

Would it surprise you to learn that virtue actually means strength?

It comes from the Latin word, virtus, which has connotations of excellence, courage, worth, and valor.

And in the work we do here at Quantum Emergence, it takes on even deeper meaning: Virtue is the term we use to describe your core identity.

What do I mean by that?

Consider the following…

Think about the word “strength.”  When we say that someone has “strengths,” what do we mean?  We often use the word strengths to contrast with the word weaknesses: “Joe has many strengths, but he has some weaknesses, too.”

Of course, when you get right down to it, often a person’s strengths and weaknesses are just two sides of the same coin.

Think about it: a person who is determined can be stubborn; a person who is gentle can be passive; a person who is energetic can be overwhelming.   In your own life, you could probably identify your greatest strength and flip it over to discover that it also carries your greatest weakness. Or if you have an easier time identifying your weakness, flip it over and there you’ll discover your greatest strength.

This has a lot of resonance with what we talked about recently on the blog — the process of discovering the truth behind your limiting beliefs.  By turning limiting beliefs on their head, you often find profound truths.

So what does all this have to do with Virtue?

Everything.

You see, your Virtue is your core strength: that which is the essence of you.  Many of the problems you’ve encountered in your life have arisen because you have neglected your Virtue and have not been living from that deepest and most essential aspect of who you are.  Quite literally, it is as if you have forgotten who you are and have been attempting to live someone else’s life.  When you understand and embrace your . true self  — who God made you to be — you will find that friction, frustration, and lackluster results melt away.  Knowing your Virtue helps you discover your strength, so that you unleash your best life possible.

There are 9 basic Virtues.  Over the next few weeks, we’ll explore each one, to help you get a sense for what’s possible when you understand this core aspect of your identity.

For now, here’s a question to consider in the comments below: how have you found that your greatest strengths are often your greatest weaknesses…and vice versa?

For a comprehensive look at how you can create real transformation in your life, download our FREE ebook, “Reveal Your Truth: How to Unlock Your Purpose in the 10 Major Areas of Life.” 

19Feb/13

Why Identity Is So Important

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Are you having a personal identity crisis?  Do you know who you are, why you’re here, and God’s plan for you?  The knowledge of personal identity is vital to successful transformation and growth.  Here are three reasons why:

  1. It Helps You Learn the Truth about Yourself.  So often our identities are based on false beliefs or perceptions – who we think we are rather than who we actually are.  When you understand your true personal identity, it gives you purpose.
  1. It Empowers You.  Likewise, when you understand your true identity, you will discover great strength.  This strength and energy empowers you and enables you to achieve the things you want most in life.
  1. It Enables You to Live a Fuller, Richer Life.  When you discover your true essence and divinity, it helps you understand that you are a part of something greater than you imagined.  With this newfound knowledge, you can free yourself of the shackles of limiting beliefs and realize your true potential.

Knowing and understanding your true personal identity will enable you to tap into a strength and energy that will bring you greater happiness, joy, and fulfillment.  These are just three reasons why.

Many people discover that working with an experienced mentor or coach can speed the self-discovery and transformation process.  Request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Session with one of our qualified coaches today. 

01Feb/13

Why “Traditional” Approaches to Overcoming Limiting Beliefs Don’t Work

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We’re nearing the end of our series on limiting beliefs.  I hope by now you have a solid sense for what they are, why it’s so important to overcome them, and how you can begin the process.

If you’ve been around the personal development world for any extended period of time, you’ve probably heard any number of “remedies” for limiting beliefs.  Maybe you’ve heard that you’re supposed to…

  • Stop identifying with the belief
  • Recite positive affirmations
  • Test your assumptions
  • Meditate
  • Create new habits
  • Reframe the belief
  • Go to therapy
  • Undergo hypnosis
  • Set goals
  • Create a vision board
  • Stop focusing on the past
  • Use brain entrainment technology and subliminal audios/videos

…or any number of techniques “guaranteed” to help you rid yourself of pesky limited beliefs once and for all.

There’s just one problem.

These techniques don’t work.

Don’t get me wrong.  Some of them are truly powerful thought- and behavior-modification strategies that, when implemented under the right circumstances, can be effective.

But the fundamental issue is that these techniques still operate from the faulty assumption that limiting beliefs are the root of your problem, as opposed to just a symptom

Remember: the root of your problem is an identity problem.  You haven’t discovered who you are at your very core — what I call your Virtue.  So you can work to change your limiting beliefs, but if you’re no closer to understanding this vital component of yourself, you’ll continue to struggle.

Until you go beyond your limiting beliefs and address the heart of the matter — coming to understand your Virtue, or your true identity — all the techniques in the world will merely scratch the surface.  It’s like painting over a crack in the wall, or putting a rug over a hole in the floor.   It might look better for a while, but ultimately, you need to dive in and repair what’s wrong.

Fortunately, at Quantum Emergence, we have an entire process devoted to helping you shine a light on your limiting beliefs and discover the truth behind them.  If this is a journey you’re interested in taking, I’d like to invite you to take advantage of a FREE Beyond Breakthrough Coaching Session with me or one of my certified coaches.  In this 30-minute session, you’ll begin the journey into understanding your true identity, so that you can step into the life you were made for.

29Jan/13

How to Ascertain the Truth Behind Limiting Beliefs

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On our blog for the past couple of weeks, we’ve been talking about limiting beliefs: what they are, and why, surprisingly, they’re not the core source of your problems, unlike what so many personal development gurus might have you believe.

Instead, limiting beliefs are a symptom of a deeper problem.

In a previous post, I put it this way:

All limiting beliefs are the dark side of a profound truth about yourself; something that your subconscious is trying to protect.

The only thing that can truly heal, complete, and correct a limiting belief is for you to become aware of the light side of your truth — what I call your Virtue, or your true identity.  Then you can embrace what is real, and your limiting belief will melt away.

You see, there is a reason that the limiting beliefs that afflict you are present — and why the same limiting belief might not be a problem for another person.  Limiting beliefs are not chosen at random, formed by accident, or picked out of a hat by chance.

They are always created from a source of light.

Let me say that again: they are always created from a source of light.

Limiting beliefs, then, represent the “dark side” or negative aspects of your truth.  Otherwise, the limiting belief would have no “teeth,” no ability to be compelling or make you feel badly.

In other words: there is always truth lurking on the other side of a lie.

But how do you do it?  How do you discover the truth behind your limiting beliefs?

Quite frankly, this is an important process that is best undertaken with the help of a mentor or coach who understands this process well.  Otherwise, you might misidentify the lie, and end up exchanging one limiting belief for another!

At Quantum Emergence, we have an entire process devoted to helping you shine a light on your limiting beliefs and discover the truth behind them.  If this is a journey you’re interested in taking, I’d like to invite you to take advantage of a FREE Beyond Breakthrough Coaching Session with me or one of my certified coaches.  In this 30-minute session, you’ll begin the journey into understanding your true identity, so that you can step into the life you were made for.

18Jan/13

Why Limiting Beliefs Are NOT the Problem

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In my last post “What Is a Limiting Belief?” we spent some time talking about limiting beliefs: what they are and how they affect our ability to live the life we want.

But did you know that limiting beliefs are NOT the real problem?

I know that sounds strange.  After all, most people — especially the so-called “gurus” in the personal development industry — tend to think that if they could just eliminate limiting beliefs, they’d never struggle again.  So they get to work, applying this technique or that strategy to minimize the effects of limiting beliefs.

But limiting beliefs are NOT the source of the core problem.

They are merely a symptom.

The core problem is that you have a distorted self-perception that is feeding all the limiting beliefs you’re experiencing.

Let me give you an example.

Say you’re struggling to stay physically fit.  You’re overweight, you’re tired.  And though you know you want to be healthier, you can’t quite bring yourself to get off the couch and throw away the potato chips.

Traditional personal development teachers might tell you that your root problem is that you subconsciously believe you are fat.

This isn’t wrong, but it only scratches the surface.

You can spend all the time in the world trying to convince yourself that you ARE someone who can be thin, fit, and active — trying to change, or replace your limiting belief — but if you don’t dig deeper, it probably won’t work very well.

Instead, you must recognize this fact: all limiting beliefs are the dark side  of a profound truth about yourself; something that your subconscious is trying to protect.

The only thing that can truly heal, complete, and correct a limiting belief is for you to become aware of the light side of your truth — what I call your Virtue, or your true identity.  Then you can embrace what is real, and your limiting belief will melt away.

In our example of someone who struggles with their weight,  realize that the belief system doesn’t even know that you’re overweight, or what weight is for that matter, but it DOES no how important it is for you to feel connected and have a sense of belonging with those who are important to you or who you love. So to add a few clichés here such as; “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” and “birds of a feather flock together”, there’s a good chance that the people you are closest to also have weight problems. Obviously, having a deep sense of connection and belonging with those you love is a good thing and thus the light side of who you are. However, conditioning says that you must maintain that connection at all costs and one way to be liked by them is to look like them. Thus, subconsciously speaking, being overweight is your ticket to fill the need of connection and belonging. Consequently, the subconscious fulfills this prime objective by maintaining a limiting belief that compels your dominant thoughts, feelings and behaviors to sabotage your efforts to lose weight whenever it might arise.

Do you see?

The real problem isn’t the limiting belief; it’s what’s behind the limiting belief.  The limiting belief is just a symptom of a more serious malady.

For help discovering your Virtue and ridding yourself of limiting beliefs, request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Coaching Session with one of Quantum Emergence’s qualified coaches today. 

11Jan/13

What Is a Limiting Belief?

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If you’ve been around personal development circles for any length of time, you’ve probably heard the term “limiting belief.”

But what is a limiting belief?

Put succinctly, a limiting belief is a way you perceive yourself or the world around you that builds unnecessary obstacles to creating the life you want.

Limiting beliefs are often held so deeply in the subconscious mind that unless we take the time to examine them and bring them to the surface, we may not even be aware of them at all.  And yet, they are part of the “programming” that governs almost everything we do: the way we think about ourselves, how we interact with others, what we believe is possible for our lives.

All beliefs serve only one purpose: to establish and maintain one’s self-perception and identity (what we at Quantum Emergence call your “Virtue”).  Thus, a skewed, distorted, or otherwise inaccurate self-perception exists because of a limiting belief.

Here are some important things to understand about limiting beliefs…

1. Limiting beliefs tend to stem from traumatic and painful past experiences.  Because all beliefs establish and maintain your self-perception, these are experiences that altered or threatened your core sense of identity (or Virtue) in very negative ways.

2. Limiting beliefs don’t know they’re limiting.  Your subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate from “positive” or “negative” beliefs.  It simply knows how you perceive yourself, and will protect your Virtue at all costs — even if it’s damaging.

3. Limiting beliefs are grounded in important truth.  You don’t pick a limiting belief out of a hat.  A limiting belief is formed when something that is significant and important to you is being threatened — in other words, your Virtue.   The reason it as “teeth,” as it were, is because it’s biting into something very real and very true.

4. Limiting beliefs have four components…

  • Memory.  The past traumatic event that formed the limiting belief.
  • Energy.  The “fight or flight” response that was linked to the memory gets trapped within the body (cellular memory).
  • Meaning.  The interpretation of how the event defined you — usually as a bad or unworthy person.
  • Mechanism.  The unconscious ways of thinking and behaving throughout life in an attempt to hide, override or diminish the pain of the limiting belief.

Did you know that it’s possible to be free from the negative effects of limiting beliefs?  In my next few blog posts, I’ll reveal how.

In the meantime, sound off in the comments below: what do limiting beliefs mean to you?

For a comprehensive look at how you can create real transformation in your life, download our FREE ebook, “Reveal Your Truth: How to Unlock Your Purpose in the 10 Major Areas of Life.”