Category Archives: self-revelation

02Apr/13

How to Find Truth in Falsehood

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In order to achieve true personal growth in life, it’s necessary to weed out the truth from the lies.  Like two sides of a coin, falsehood helps you understand truth.  Understanding the falsehood in life helps illuminate the truth that will lead you on a path to greater personal growth.  Here are some ways to find truth in falsehood:

  1. Understand your filter.  The falsehood in your life is a product of the limiting beliefs you have accrued over the course of your life.  Once you understand the filter through which you see life, you can begin to peel away that which isn’t true and experience the personal growth you desire.
  1. Ask Yourself Why.  Take a good, hard look and ask yourself why you believe the things you do?  Why did you pick those meanings, that perspective or those qualities to define yourself with?
  1. Let Go of Fear.  It’s scary examining deeply-held beliefs.  The thought that what we have always accepted about ourselves  might not be true is terrifying.  Giving yourself permission to examine your beliefs allows you to either confirm them or begin a new search to greater enlightenment.

These are a few ways to find truth in falsehood and put you on a course to greater personal growth.

 

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27Mar/13

Why False Identity Is So Damaging

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When you look at the rest of the personal development world, you notice a few patterns emerging.

  • Lots of goal setting techniques
  • Lots of checklists
  • Lots of affirmations
  • Lots of meditations
  • Lots of shoulds and shouldn’ts, and dos and don’ts

I actually believe that all of those techniques can be useful.  But every single one of them misses something important…something deeper…the very heart of the matter.

Here at Quantum Emergence, we do things a little differently.   Our transformation philosophy is identity-based.

But what exactly does that mean?

In a nutshell, this: each of us has a spark of divinity with us.  This spark of divinity is the very core of who we are.  It is the true essence of our natures…who God Himself created us to be.

That spark is our true identity.

When we live in alignment with our identity, we are fulfilled, happy, resilient.

When we live out of alignment with it — or worse, when we try to bury, squash, change, or otherwise do violence to it — we are frustrated, angry, sluggish, unhappy, restless, weary.

Identity is so vital that our entire emotional and psychological systems are designed to protect and preserve our image of who we really are.  Our subconscious minds will cling to our beliefs — even false ones — if they are genuinely held.  You hear a lot about “limiting” and “supporting” beliefs in personal development circles.  But really there are just beliefs.  Our minds have no way of distinguishing between the two.  All it knows is that identity is vital…and must be protected at all costs.

So our subconscious minds will do all they can to protect and preserve those beliefs.

If the identity in which we’ve invested is false — that is, if it is out of alignment with that spark of divinity, that core piece of who God has made us to be — the results can be disastrous.  This can include loneliness, self-destructive behavior patterns, unstable relationships, poverty, and much, much more.

The answer is to come to know who we really are, to reveal ourselves to ourselves.  To embrace our true identity and to leave false ones in the dust where they belong.

How has understanding your true identity helped you create a better life?

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13Mar/13

The 9 Virtues Part 3: Goodness, Kindness, Love

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Welcome to the last in our series of posts about Virtue — that core aspect of your identity that helps you understand who you really are and who God made you to be.

In our first post we talked about what Virtue is.  In our last two posts, we’ve spoken about the other six Virtues: diligence, faith, and valor and knowledge, self-control, and perseverance.

Today, we’ll talk about the final three: goodness, kindness, and love.

1. Goodness.  Goodness is a sense of purity and protecting what is right.  A person who is good is honest and straightforward.  There is no deception or game-playing.  Instead, there is a wholesome quality of honesty, a clear sense of right and a wrong, and a steady commitment to doing the right thing.

2. Kindness.  Kindness is a sense of appreciation and a standing for equality.  People who are kind are genuinely grateful for their blessings and gifts.  They see grace everywhere and freely extend it to others.  They are very conscientious about others’ suffering and oppression, and seek to correct inequalities in the world.

3. Love.  Love is a sense of abundance and an agenda for completion.  A person whose primary Virtue is love is overflowing with generosity, praise, and care. They have the ability to see past peoples fake masks and false pretenses and see their perfection. There is also a strong desire  for wholeness and completeness  — not just within the self, but for the world at large.

It’s important to understand that one Virtue isn’t “better” than another.  The Virtues aren’t a hierarchy; they’re gifts. As such, each gift is necessary so that the world can function as it should.  Denying your Virtue means you’re denying the world of something precious and profound.

In the Bible, Paul compared the gifts that each of us brings to the world to a body: each part is necessary for the proper functioning and thriving of the body as a whole.

“Now if the foot should say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.  And if the ear should say, ‘Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,’ it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.  If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be?  If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be?  But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.”

When you embrace your Virtue, suddenly you’ll find that you’re able to contribute and create in a way that you couldn’t before.  Knowing who you are — your Virtue, your core identity — allows you to step into the life you were made to live.

What experience have you had with the concept of embracing who you really are?  How have you seen it yield fruits in your life?

At Quantum Emergence, our specialty is identity-based transformation.  This means that we’ll help you discover what your Virtue is, and support you as you seek to intentionally create a life that is formed from the very essence of who you are.

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07Mar/13

The 9 Virtues Part 2: Knowledge, Self-Control, Perseverance

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Welcome back to our series on Virtue.  In case you haven’t been following along, I can’t encourage you enough to read the previous posts, which you can find here and here.

Your Virtue is your core identity — that which resides at the very center of who God made you to be.  The better you understand what your Virtue is, the more effectively you’ll be able to create the life you are meant to live.

There are 9 Virtues in all. Our previous post spoke about the first three.  In today’s post, we’ll discuss the next three.

1. Knowledge.  This Virtue deals with a sense of understanding and a thirst for wisdom.  A person whose Virtue is knowledge cherishes truth and seeks it out wherever it may be found –in books, in life experiences, in the classroom, in the world.

2. Self-Control.  Self-control is a sense of power and yearning for being present.  While many think of “self-control” in terms of avoiding bad habits, this virtue goes much, much deeper than that.  It is about understanding the power one possesses within to subdue and call into order those things that are in chaos and disarray, whether internally or externally, while living each moment fully as it comes.

3. Perseverance.  Perseverance is a sense of achievement and a drive for excellence.  People whose Virtue is perseverance are willing to walk through fire to achieve their objectives.  They are dissatisfied with mediocrity and crave the feeling of satisfaction that comes from knowing they have done their best.

Remember: not everyone is given each of the Virtues.  And though you may have elements of several, everyone has one Virtue that is dominant.  You shouldn’t try to force or live into one that isn’t yours.  Usually, it takes the help of an objective third-party — a coach or a mentor — to help you determine which is your Virtue and what that means for your life going forward.

What experience have you had with these three Virtues?

At Quantum Emergence, our specialty is identity-based transformation.  This means that we’ll help you discover what your Virtue is, and support you as you seek to intentionally create a life that is formed from the very essence of who you are.

Many people discover that working with an experienced mentor or coach can speed the self-discovery and transformation process.  Request a FREE 30-minute Beyond Breakthrough Session with one of our qualified coaches today. 

27Feb/13

The 9 Virtues Part 1: Diligence, Faith, Valor

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In my last post, I introduced you to the concept of Virtue. We explored what it is, and discussed the fact that it is the core aspect of your identity — your fundamental strength.

There are 9 Virtues in all, and each person possesses one of them in a way that is more dominant than the others.  The 9 Virtues come from the Bible, in 2 Peter 1:5-7:

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge;  and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.”

Today we’ll take a closer look at the first three: diligence, faith, and valor.

Before we begin, however, a quick word of caution: it will be tempting to read these blog posts and try to determine for yourself which is your Virtue.  I encourage you not to do that. Usually, it takes an objective observer — a mentor or coach — to help you identify your Virtue.  Many of the people I’ve worked with who have tried to do this on their own have gotten it wrong.  Because knowing your Virtue is such an important step in the journey to transformation, it’s very important that you work with a trained third party who can help you identify yours.  A misidentification can lead you down the wrong path entirely.

That out of the way, let’s move into a deeper exploration of these three Virtues.

1. Diligence.  Diligence is a sense of joy and a hope for future expectations.  A person who is diligent is not easily distracted, but moves forward, steadily and energetically, toward her goals.  A diligent person is an optimist through and through: she believes that she can create the outcomes she seeks.

2. Faith.  Faith is a sense of safety and pursuit of the unknown.  A person who is faithful has deep and abiding trust in God and the universe, and believes that all things are possible.  A faithful person isn’t afraid to take risks for high rewards.

3. Valor.  Valor is a sense of trust and impulse for creative expression.  A person whose Virtue is valor is drawn to their intuitive sense of out-of-the-box thinking, supernatural insights and boldly blazing paths where no one else has gone.   He trusts the world to be beautiful, and as a result finds beauty everywhere.

In our next posts, we’ll explore the other 6 Virtues.

For now, discuss in the comments below: what kind of experience have you had with each of the above three Virtues?

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20Feb/13

What Is Virtue?

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The word “virtue” has interesting connotations in modern society.   We tend to think of it as something that refers to moral goodness — for example, someone who demonstrates behavior that is true and upright.  If you were brought up in a religious household, you might associate it with sexual purity or chastity.   Or perhaps you’ve never thought much about the word at all: it isn’t a term you hear all that frequently anymore.

Would it surprise you to learn that virtue actually means strength?

It comes from the Latin word, virtus, which has connotations of excellence, courage, worth, and valor.

And in the work we do here at Quantum Emergence, it takes on even deeper meaning: Virtue is the term we use to describe your core identity.

What do I mean by that?

Consider the following…

Think about the word “strength.”  When we say that someone has “strengths,” what do we mean?  We often use the word strengths to contrast with the word weaknesses: “Joe has many strengths, but he has some weaknesses, too.”

Of course, when you get right down to it, often a person’s strengths and weaknesses are just two sides of the same coin.

Think about it: a person who is determined can be stubborn; a person who is gentle can be passive; a person who is energetic can be overwhelming.   In your own life, you could probably identify your greatest strength and flip it over to discover that it also carries your greatest weakness. Or if you have an easier time identifying your weakness, flip it over and there you’ll discover your greatest strength.

This has a lot of resonance with what we talked about recently on the blog — the process of discovering the truth behind your limiting beliefs.  By turning limiting beliefs on their head, you often find profound truths.

So what does all this have to do with Virtue?

Everything.

You see, your Virtue is your core strength: that which is the essence of you.  Many of the problems you’ve encountered in your life have arisen because you have neglected your Virtue and have not been living from that deepest and most essential aspect of who you are.  Quite literally, it is as if you have forgotten who you are and have been attempting to live someone else’s life.  When you understand and embrace your . true self  — who God made you to be — you will find that friction, frustration, and lackluster results melt away.  Knowing your Virtue helps you discover your strength, so that you unleash your best life possible.

There are 9 basic Virtues.  Over the next few weeks, we’ll explore each one, to help you get a sense for what’s possible when you understand this core aspect of your identity.

For now, here’s a question to consider in the comments below: how have you found that your greatest strengths are often your greatest weaknesses…and vice versa?

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15Jan/13

3 Elements of Limiting Beliefs

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How can you tell a limiting belief from a supporting belief?  There are three elements that will help you determine that what you’re experiencing is a limiting belief that will hinder your transformation process.

1) Limiting beliefs carry negative emotions.  Limiting beliefs always come with negative emotions attached.

2) Limiting beliefs maintain a low self-image.  If the belief you’re investing in makes you feel badly about yourself, it is limiting.

3) Limiting beliefs always play on one of the three fears of man.  There are three universal fears that afflict humankind: the fear that we are not valuable, worthy, or significant; the fear that we are not loved nor lovable; the fear that we are alone and disconnected.  If the belief you’ve identified is associated with one of these three fears, you can be certain it is a limiting belief.

Understanding and identifying limiting beliefs is an important step on the road to transformation.

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11Jan/13

What Is a Limiting Belief?

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If you’ve been around personal development circles for any length of time, you’ve probably heard the term “limiting belief.”

But what is a limiting belief?

Put succinctly, a limiting belief is a way you perceive yourself or the world around you that builds unnecessary obstacles to creating the life you want.

Limiting beliefs are often held so deeply in the subconscious mind that unless we take the time to examine them and bring them to the surface, we may not even be aware of them at all.  And yet, they are part of the “programming” that governs almost everything we do: the way we think about ourselves, how we interact with others, what we believe is possible for our lives.

All beliefs serve only one purpose: to establish and maintain one’s self-perception and identity (what we at Quantum Emergence call your “Virtue”).  Thus, a skewed, distorted, or otherwise inaccurate self-perception exists because of a limiting belief.

Here are some important things to understand about limiting beliefs…

1. Limiting beliefs tend to stem from traumatic and painful past experiences.  Because all beliefs establish and maintain your self-perception, these are experiences that altered or threatened your core sense of identity (or Virtue) in very negative ways.

2. Limiting beliefs don’t know they’re limiting.  Your subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate from “positive” or “negative” beliefs.  It simply knows how you perceive yourself, and will protect your Virtue at all costs — even if it’s damaging.

3. Limiting beliefs are grounded in important truth.  You don’t pick a limiting belief out of a hat.  A limiting belief is formed when something that is significant and important to you is being threatened — in other words, your Virtue.   The reason it as “teeth,” as it were, is because it’s biting into something very real and very true.

4. Limiting beliefs have four components…

  • Memory.  The past traumatic event that formed the limiting belief.
  • Energy.  The “fight or flight” response that was linked to the memory gets trapped within the body (cellular memory).
  • Meaning.  The interpretation of how the event defined you — usually as a bad or unworthy person.
  • Mechanism.  The unconscious ways of thinking and behaving throughout life in an attempt to hide, override or diminish the pain of the limiting belief.

Did you know that it’s possible to be free from the negative effects of limiting beliefs?  In my next few blog posts, I’ll reveal how.

In the meantime, sound off in the comments below: what do limiting beliefs mean to you?

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08Jan/13

Limiting vs. Supporting Beliefs

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In the journey toward personal growth, you’ll probably encounter the terms “limiting beliefs” and “supporting beliefs” along the way.

But what is a limiting vs. a supporting belief?

In simplest terms, a limiting belief is something you hold to be true about yourself or the world around you that is creating obstacles in your path.  For example, if you are struggling financially, it could be because you have a limiting belief that you are not the type of person who would ever be wealthy.  Thus, you make decisions and live from that reality.

A supporting belief, on the other hand, is something you hold to be true about yourself or the world around you that is in alignment with the life you want to create.  Using the financial objective again, if one of your life objectives is wealth and prosperity, a supporting belief would be that you are the type of person who can create wealth and opportunity easily.

All beliefs exist to establish and maintain our self-perception.  Beliefs that represent the truth about who we really are can be referred to as “supporting beliefs,” while beliefs that represent a skewed, distorted, or otherwise inaccurate self-perception is a “limiting belief.”

As you continue your path to personal growth, it’s important to understand that the terms “limiting” and “supporting” are just names to describe whether or not our beliefs are producing positive or negative results — our subconscious mind doesn’t  distinguish between them this way, and will strive to protect whatever you actually, genuinely believe to be your true identity at your deepest level.

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