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The Top 3 Reasons Why the Law of Attraction is NOT Working For You (Part 2 of 3)

Reason #2: The law of attraction is not working for you because your subconscious mind doesn’t understand what you want.

Okay let’s suppose you get through the # 3 roadblock to manifesting your goals and that your subconscious doesn’t perceive what you want as a threat. Now you have to deal with the fact that your subconscious has absolutely no clue what you’re talking about when you say you want more money, a new relationship or better job. Think of your subconscious mind like a computer although it appears to have some level of intelligence it is simply processing data. It doesn’t have the capacity or ability to comprehend the concepts and ideas that your conscious mind comes up with regarding what you want, hope and dream of.

Contrary to popular belief, (and one of the top 10 myths about personal development – blog post coming soon!) You don’t have individual beliefs about money, relationships, career, purpose etc. because your subconscious mind, which creates and maintains your belief system, doesn’t know what those things are. You only have 1 belief and 1 belief only which is; “what do I believe about myself?” Your belief system is rooted in your subconscious self-perception and that’s it; that’s the only thing it understands.

In addition, the only thing it thinks about is; are you safe? These neuroscience facts actually help you become more effective with the evoking the Law of Attraction when you understand how to engage your subconscious mind. Trying to motivate it with things like money, people, vacations and cars doesn’t work because it can’t interpret what you’re saying, it’s like speaking Japanese to someone who speak Russian – major communication problem.

So now you’re probably wondering okay Dr. Matt, “how do you speak to your subconscious mind?” Great question!

The key is to always put YOURSELF in the conversation. Remember the only thing your subconscious mind thinks about and cares about is your self perception and safety. All your goals, dreams, and desires must be communicated to the subconscious mind in reference to you. The questions you must ask yourself are:

“What must I believe about myself in order for this to manifest in my life?

What must this mean about me if this person, place or thing showed up?

What higher truth about me would be expressed in experiencing this thing that I want?”

Once you have the answers to these questions, the next step is to effectively communicate those ideas and concepts to your subconscious mind in association with the goal. This is where traditional personal development modalities such as visualization, affirmation, and meditation would be useful. The key is that you combine the meaning (the intangible) with the manifestation (the tangible).

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The Top 3 Reasons Why the Law of Attraction is NOT Working For You (Part 1 of 3)

In a countdown fashion over the next three weeks, I will discuss the top 3 reasons why the law of attraction is not working for you from a neurological perspective. I will also be sharing some powerful techniques and tools to help you break free from the mind prison that you’ve unconsciously created. So let’s get started!

Reason # 3: The Law of Attraction is not working for you because your nervous system doesn’t think it’s safe for you.

The first thing you must understand about your nervous system is that its operating system is based on safety and survival. Its job is to protect you from all potential threats internally and externally. It accomplishes this by keeping you the same. In scientific terminology it’s known as maintaining homeostasis or equilibrium. It is on constant vigilance over your physical environment making sure that you and it are an energetic match. Anything different IE; more time, more love, more money, more freedom means threat and potential harm.

On the physical level this is easy to understand when you consider an oncoming train, standing on the ledge of the Grand Canyon or some opposing figure holding a knife to your throat. All of these experiences will evoke what is called the fight or flight response which is when your autonomic nervous system (ANS) takes over in order to eliminate the threat or remove you from its presence.

Your ANS responds the exact same way when you pursue a goal, dream or desire that IT thinks will potentially cause you harm. It reacts to these ambitions by creating self-sabotaging thoughts, feelings and behaviors that will ultimately cause you to quit your pursuit. Remember, its job is to prevent change by keeping things the same. You can also blame your autonomic nervous system for determining what command the Law of Attraction responds to. (More on this in the next post – Reason #2)

Now at this point most people respond by saying, “Dr. Matt that doesn’t make any sense, how can more time, money, freedom, love and happiness cause me harm?” And my response to that question is, “Who said your sub-conscious mind makes sense?!”  In fact, your sub-conscious mind (brain stem, cerebellum and mid brain) works through association not logical, reasonable or rational thought processes like your surface-conscious mind (frontal lobe/neocortex).

You must realize that your autonomic nervous system – at the level of your subconscious mind – has already made associations and interpretations of whether or not health, wealth and fulfilling relationships are safe for you. Even though it doesn’t understand what those things are, at some point earlier in your life, experiences you’ve had around those topics caused your subconscious to form an opinion about them and created your belief system. Your belief system is simply thoughts and opinions that your subconscious mind holds to be true. And once your belief system is formed it becomes the definition of safety for you regardless if what it thinks is actually accurate or true.

What is also critical to understand at this point is that once your belief system is formed it becomes your operating system and your ANS guards it as if your life depends on it, just like breathing, circulation and digestion. Anything that goes against it, including your hopes, dreams, desires and goals, must be destroyed like an enemy because all those things represent something different than the accepted norm… and different is threatening.

Are you getting this? So let’s recap; your ANS only cares about one thing: your SAFETY. Your sub-conscious mind defines safety based on what it has been programmed to think from your PAST childhood experiences called your belief system. Anything your HEAD (surface-conscious) WANTS that is different from what your HEART(sub-conscious) THINKS ain’t gonna happen… PERIOD. Hence, one reason why the law of attraction is not working for you. More to come!

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